Read almost any article on starting or keeping up an exercise regime, and you’ll be bound to be given the advice that it is great to have an exercise buddy. For some perhaps this works, but it’s not for everyone.
I train alone.
This wasn’t always the case. For a while, I went to the gym with a colleague. I thought this would assist with my motivation, it did – until I heard that she was talking maliciously about my weight to other colleagues. I didn’t step foot in the gym with her after that.
My partner was telling me once how his friends’ wife was struggling with her weight. He suggested I should ask her to join me at the gym as I would be a good role model for her. I felt for her, I really did, but my answer was a cold cut “No”. Going to the gym was something I did for myself, I did not want company, I did not feel skilled enough to be her fitness mentor, nor did I want to be restricted by someone else timetable.
I have no intention of training with anyone – ever again. And that’s ok.
Birds often fly in groups, they do this in an act to reduce wind resistance and therefore conserve energy. I consider such acts as a strong display of teamwork. If I were a bird however I think I’d be the one wandering down the street alone rather than flying in unison with my fellow feathered friends. Am I am poor team player? Perhaps. But I like to think that it has more to do with the acknowledgement my own strengths and I have discovered that working out alone is one of them. I am not afraid of my own company, I push myself hard and don’t need anyone else to push me, I also understand my limitations and seek help when something is outside of my realm. This has worked for me.
If I was a person who gave advice, I would say to anyone who is starting or trying to stick to a fitness regime,
Do what works for you, don’t worry about what others say, find your own groove, and stick to that.
What works best for you? Do you have a workout buddy or are you like me and prefer to workout alone?