In Health Coaching sessions I often explore with my clients the reasons as to why weight gain has occurred and weight loss is not happening. Despite the individuality of the people I work with, common elements in their journeys are often unveiled. The top reasons I have found are:
You don’t have a why
Your why is your reason for wanting to get the weight off. It may be a health concern for example your GP has advised that you are at a high risk of developing diabetes or a personal goal like getting back to a certain dress size …..whatever it is, you’ve really got to want it.
Your why needs to be strong enough to keep you motivated and realistic enough that you won’t lose sight of your goal.
You don’t have a plan (or your plan is too complex)
Your plan is your how. How will you reach your weight loss goals?
Many people fall into the trap of trying to maintain very low calorie diets whilst incorporating exhausting exercise routines into their lives…and this will work however drastic changes to routines are unlikely to be sustainable in the long run, this often results in many people giving up due to pure exhaustion.
So keep the plan doable – I’m all about simple and sustainable solutions! For many of my clients their how is as simple as cutting out takeaway meals and implementing some gentle exercise into their routines, small changes that can be added to in time.
Your primary foods are not serving you
In my experience, weight loss is much more complex than what you put in your mouth, your primary foods need to be considered and addressed.
Primary foods are the things that nourish you in life. Relationships, career, hobbies, fun. These are the things that provide service to us as individuals at an emotional, mental or spiritual level. If one or several of your primary foods are out of whack your health, well-being and happiness is likely to suffer.
Take for example someone who is miserable at work. They may wake up dreading the day, drag themselves to the workplace and spend the day doing work that does not serve them. They may come home and eat poorly, drink too much wine and plonk themselves in front of the TV in an attempt to drown their miseries. This is a classic scenario that I have seen in many clients – their primary foods are impacting their lives so badly that they continue to make poor health choices until they are able to improve the circumstances that are making them unhappy.
You don’t love or respect yourself and your body
This was a big one for me when I first started my weight loss journey. I didn’t like myself and therefore didn’t respect myself. The more I nourished myself, the more love and respect I gained for myself and my body. This was a long journey for me but the respect I gained for myself soon turned into a deep desire to take care of myself and enable my body to do and be the best it could be. This is one that many of us (including myself) need to continue to work on.
5. Naturally, what you put in your mouth is important too!
Of course your secondary foods, the stuff you put in your mouth also plays an important role. Make sure you eat real food, not processed junk and aim to drink at least two litres of water each day. Implementing these habits will play a big part on your weight loss journey.
I speak from experience when saying that weight loss is not easy, but promise you that it does not have to be as difficult as we are often lead to believe. Have you had similar struggles? Feel free to share your below.